Can a marriage truly survive anything? We have survived being butt-ugly broke, working crazy hours, uneven parenting, random arguments and more. But just because we survived doesn’t mean that we came away undamaged. Our picture perfect life isn’t so perfect anymore. There are cracks, blemishes and images of things that we don’t even recognize. No cut is ever truly healed by human hands or human words. No thing is forgiven to the extent to which it is truly forgotten. You may not hold a grudge, or feel a certain way when re-confronted with that information, but the memory is still there. It is still there. It is a permanent crack, a forever scar, on what was once thought of as perfect. And we can find ourselves unconsciously acting different because of the forgiven memory. Are words that need to be heard left unspoken for the sake of feelings? Are tiptoes around the heart truly what makes it grow stronger?
How can a marriage truly survive anything when its survival depends on the 2 people who caused the marital apocalypse?
So it begs to question…did your marriage really survive or did it become something else all together?
There is a difference between survival and adaptation. Survival is day-to-day. It’s a slow stagnation which you never truly gain ground to make a difference. Survival takes more from you than you really have to give. It shortens your happiness and deprives you of joy. What else in life can you focus on when your survival is on the line? Adaptation is the progress of moving forward when all things around you slowly become different, unrecognizable. With adaptation, your perspective on life changes in such a way that physical manifestations happen to you and around you. You being to adapt and your situation beings to adapt to you. (Whether it be negative or positive is given to your FREE WILL.) Adaptations gives you the ability to have all things made anew so that you can experience the best possible outcome.
Can a marriage truly adapt to anything? We have adapted to be butt-ugly broke, working crazy hours, uneven parenting , random argument and more. Because we adapted, we are no longer the same person as we were at the beginning of the ordeal. We now contain thoughts, feelings, emotions, and experiences that we did not have knowledge of before. Sometimes we even have battle scars. These scars are just a reminder of our past. (Lest we forget how far He has bought us.)
Forgiveness evokes an understanding. A sick, yet simple, sort of empathy. Sometimes coming to terms and understanding the experiences of someone who hurt you can physically make you ill. But with understanding comes knowledge. The knowledge to move on and let go. The knowledge to set yourself free.
How can a marriage truly adapt to anything when its adaptations depends not the 2 people who caused the martial apocalypse? Easy. Because out of every fire, thrives life. In the most barren of places you will find hope. When you aim to adapt yourself, He will manifest the situation around you to adapt to your vibes, your energy, your soul. And whatever doesn’t adapt, surely becomes extinct.
So choose wisely in your marriage. You will either survive, adapt or become extinct. I choose life. And I choose to have that life more abundantly. I look forward to continuing to adapt with the man that I am yoked to. We will adapt when the kids become teenagers. We will adapt during financial strain and financial blossoms. We will adapt thru sickness and thru health. We will adapt individually, yet together. We will adapt into human beings who are so perfectly imperfect yet unconditional loved by the Most High.
Allow your imperfections to evolve into something greater.
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