Ok Ladies, we all know the amount of work we do around the house is plenty. We wake the kids, fix breakfast, clean up after breakfast, dress the kids, prepare lunches, feed the animals and double-check homework all within 1 hour.....5 days a week....a total of 250 days a year....... (This is a simple morning routine. Dad takes them to school.) In the evenings, I jet from work to get the kids. When we make it home around 5pm, I feed them a snack, then we start on homework. During this time, I prepare dinner and feed the chickens and dog. After the kids are finally cleaned and put to bed, I realize something. I came home and didn't sit down until dinner time. (This motherhood thing is really like a second job.) On the weekends things can get pretty crazy too. We're trying to catch up on that never-ending-pile of laundry, spend some "quality time" with our spouse and kids, and clean parts of the house that hasn't seen some Lysol or Fabulosa in ages.
And even though we try our best, we never really get everything done that we intend on doing. Something always gets put on the backburner. And most of the time it us. We are so busy caring for the needs of others and the house, that we rarely make time for ourselves.
But I don't put myself last because I want to. I do it because I need to. Just like all those other things in the house. They just NEED to be done. The kids need to be fed. The dishes need to be washed. School lunches need to be made. Dinner needs to be cooked. Errands need to be ran. Laundry needs to be washed, dried, folded and put away. These things (and many more that I'm forgetting) simply need to be done. Period.
So when I came home ready to start my 2nd job a THE mom, I was taken back that my husband had started on some of the chores that needed to be done. Did I ask him to do it? No. I didn't even give a hint or anything. He just did it. So, should I say thank you?
On one hand, I don't think that I should. He is doing what I do day in and day out with not much thanks at all. I'm doing it because it simply needs to be done. And you know what, he is too!!!!!!
I really never realize all that he does simple because it needs to be done. He takes the kids to school and stops by the store after work to bring me wine for the night. I've always wondered how the trash empties itself and the dumpster makes it to the curb. (Although now I think I might know.) He changes the AC filters, mows the lawn and can fix anything and everything.
He never really says the actual words "thank you." He simply gives me a kiss on the neck as his gets his breakfast I cooked. Or tells me the clothes smell great. Or sometimes he smacks me on the ass after he gets the lunch I made fore him.
So, I will not say "thank you" very often. Instead, I'll find some type of gesture or actions that REALLY shows my appreciation.
These are some of my thoughts, questions, comments and "could-care-less"...